While rumors continue to swirl about actress/rock artist Jada Pinkett Smith and actor/rapper Will Smith getting a divorce, the couple puts the rumor mill to bed with the utmost class.
When Will Smith showed up to “The Tonight Show With Jimmy Fallon” he mentioned his “wife” and joked about getting her pregnant backstage.
And Jada Pinkett Smith gave the same salute to her husband on Fri., Feb. 28, episode of “The Arsenio Hall Show.” She chatted about the late rapper/friend Tupac Shakur, embracing her eight to ten pounds of extra weight, choosing an Oscar dress, growing up in Baltimore and the importance of friendship in a marriage.
Although Arsenio didn’t comment on her missing wedding ring, she had no problem talking about how she met her husband and married life. She also talked with the host about being 19 and auditioning to play Will Smith’s girlfriend during the hit ’90s TV show “Fresh Prince of Bel-Air.” She was turned down because of their height difference.
“Many years later, once I started a film career and everything, Mr. Smith decided he wanted to come and ask me to play his girlfriend,” said Jada Pinkett Smith to Arsenio. “And I had to tell him ‘no’ again. Thank goodness because I think if I had done it we would not be married today.”
She also commented on knowing when the time is right to be married and what it takes to make a marriage last, again confirming that the two are going strong.
“We’ve learned over the years how to become partners in life,” said Jada Pinkett Smith. “You can be married, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re ready to be someone’s partner in life, meaning their growth, their expansion, their changes. And that’s where your friendship comes in because when you’re married sometimes the romance comes and it goes. But I’m going to tell you what never leaves. That’s that friend love.”
So what’s the big deal about a wedding ring? Not every couple, including celebrity couples, choose to purchase or constantly wear their diamonds. Some of today’s couples are choosing to flaunt their matching or combination tattoos instead, including Jay Z and Beyonce.
Beyonce explained why she doesn’t wear her wedding ring either.
“I feel like it’s for me when I’m not working,” she said during an interview with Australia’s TV program Today Tonight. “And when I’m working, it’s too personal. I have a little tattoo that is here always because I knew I would be working. I wouldn’t be able to wear [my wedding ring] all the time so I have this.”
Hip-hop and pop fans may remember the days when Salt n’ Pepa’s Sandra Denton and Naughty by Nature’s Anthony “Treach” Criss chose matching barbed wire tattoos to represent their unit during the two years they were married.
Regardless of whether couples choose to wear the rings, skip the rings, get matching tattoos or some other form to show their unity, the bigger picture is the couple has to figure out how to stay together everyday for the rest of their lives, not the cut of their jewelry. CDC reports the most recent stats on marriage were 6.8 percent of the population (2.1 million people) got married and 3.6 percent (877,000) got a divorce.
Now how likely was it that they were screaming to the judge about a wedding ring versus incompatibility? A ring does not make a marriage last. Think of the bigger picture before tying the knot. Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith have managed to do that for 17 years and counting, with way too much unsolicited advice about their marriage lasting.
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